The average age of remembering childhood incest is between 29 and 49. — FMSF Newsletter
Parent against parent can have devastating effects on a child as Wikipedia reports:
Stanley Clawar and Brynne Rivlin have claimed in Children Held Hostage: Dealing with Programmed and Brainwashed Children that many forms of mind control are used in parental alienation by one parent against the other parent using both parents’ children as unwitting weapons. Parental alienation often forces children to choose sides and become allies against the other parent. Children caught in the middle of such conflicts suffer severe losses of love, respect and peace during their formative years. They also often lose their alienated parent forever. These consequences and a host of
others…follows them into adulthood by creating a chronic condition known as Parental Alienation Syndrome.1
Retired Minnesota Judge Michael Haas gave blunt advice for divorcing parents:
“Your children have come into this world because of the two of you. Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent. If so, that is YOUR problem and YOUR fault.
“No matter what you think of the other party – or what your family thinks of the other party – these children are one-half of each of you. Remember that, because every time you tell your child what an ‘idiot’ his father is, or what a ‘fool’ his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child half of HIM is bad.
“That is an unforgivable thing to do to a child. That is not love! That is possession. If you do that to your children, you will destroy them as surely as if you had cut them into pieces, because that is what you are doing to their emotions.
“I sincerely hope that you do not do that to your children. Think more about your children and less about yourselves, and make yours a selfless kind of love, not foolish or selfish, or your children will
1 “Parental alienation,” Wikipedia.org, at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_alienation (retrieved: 7 February 2009).
2 Judge Michael Haas, “Blunt advice for divorcing parents,” at http://www.divorceinkentucky.com/BluntAdvice.htm (retrieved: 25 June 2012).
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